Thursday, September 16, 2010

Miracles do happen!


1st day of preschool
4 1/2 years old

We've learned many things as parents in the last 4 1/2 years about raising a child that is "shy". I'm going to log this in detail more to connect with other parents that struggle with this same issue than to complain about the rough road! As a baby and toddler I never imagined this character trait to be a hindrance. It actually made Maya seem really easy--she just followed us around quietly and was never very demanding. Then fast forward to the age that it starts to become necessary to develop socially and find out that it is a very painful process. This past year has been full of many painful and tearful moments for both Maya and I as we learn to negotiate this difficult road. I've learned to respect that it is almost physically painful for her to be out of her comfort zone but I struggle all the time with when it's right to push her and when I should let her cower behind me??? It has gotten to the point that I can't hardly leave her EVER! Even if I need to leave her with a friend that she knows really well, it is a major show-down (Sorry about those bite marks, my friend!!!) She has panic attacks that are impressive to say the least.

Realizing that we would really like her to succeed in school, and Kindergarten is one short year away, we decided to enroll her in a preschool program at a local church that we've heard great things about. She has known all summer that preschool is starting in the fall. Up until 2 weeks ago the mere mention of "preschool" ended in an hour of frustrated and panic stricken yelling and crying from her. I've been wondering, "and how is this suppose to succeed?!?!" We've focused our efforts on many prayers, more baby steps towards separation, and reading lots of library books about kids that are scared of school at first.

Well...I'm here to tell you that miracles happen! Look at that smile on her first day of preschool. She was still really scared but also a little excited. I don't think she hardly said 2 words to anyone on her first day but by her second time she told me that she made 2 friends and her teachers said she had told them that I was having a baby. So she must be feeling more comfortable and we're progressing!


Now on the way to preschool our conversation is about what it means to have "mixed emotions" as she tries to explain that she really wants to go to preschool and also really doesn't. Let me just say that I'm one grateful and happy momma to see this BIG baby step in her life! It was only a few weeks ago that I thought I'd never survive it!

And even some smiles after preschool. Hayley and Alice came to cheer her on and pick her up. Yeah!!!

5 comments:

Aim Aug said...

Yay Maya! So hard! But it's so good for them to be independent too. She will love preschool. And so will you! Those few precious hours with only one child to tote around...nice!

Miss Beevers said...

What a result! Someone is looking after you and your family!! xxx

Paul and Nancy said...

Greta job Maya! And well done JaNae for helping her through it all! She sure knows how to pose in that first picture. SO cute!

Gina said...

Yeah for Maya! She looks so cute and happy. Preschool is SO fun. I'm glad she's getting through the transition so well!

Ferrel Family said...

Hey! Fun to see how the Messicks are doing! So glad Alice has warmed up to preschool. What a strong little girl! Hayley looks so big. Do we really have 2nd graders? Maya looks like a little girl! It's been way too long since we've see you guys!

Congratulations on another little one!!! I hope you're starting to feel better. I remember how bad it was before and hoorah! for generic meds. Seriously! We're teetering on the idea of having the 4th. We'll see...

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